Why the Law of Attraction Isn't Working For You
Hey! I’m don’t mean to be a b*tch, but when you’re new to working with the law of attraction, sometimes you’ll just find yourself in troubleshoot mode a lot. Sounds like you? Today, we’re going to demystify everything about why the law of attraction isn't working for you. Is it because you’re not good enough?
Because you’re not old enough?
Because you’re not young enough?
Because you’re not experienced enough?
Haha, I’m kidding! I hope you didn’t take offense from any of that. Let me just tell you, the law of attraction is always working in the background. It’s just not happening immediately. For example, if you press for water from a tab, you immediately get water. If you go to Starbucks to order a pumpkin spice latte (Hey, t’is the season!), you get your drink two minutes later.
So what’s with the law of attraction. Why is it taking forever for my money, soulmate, dream job, $100k/year business, and dream life to manifest.
Our society is so conditioned to have things immediately that we have a shorter attention span than a goldfish. Yes, you heard that right ma’am. A goldfish has an attention span of 9 seconds. We humans? Only 8 seconds. Yikes!
That’s ridonkulous right?
Yes, the law of attraction is magic. But it doesn’t happen as fast as the Hollywood movies where the witches cast a spell and everything happens all at once.
Let your life unfold. One minute at a time. One day at a time. One week at a time. One month at a time.
So let’s get into why the law of attraction isn’t working for you and what you can do to troubleshoot your magic. Haha, troubleshoot your magic, did I just say that?
#1 You’re not aligned with the feelings of your desire.
One of the biggest reasons the law of attraction isn’t working for you is because you’re not aligned with the feelings of your desire. You see… we humans, and everything, is made up of energy. Yes, I know that’s hard to believe that we humans are made up of balls of energy when you’re not really seeing it. But we’re all energy. Even the table you’re using right now is energy.
When you don’t get what you want, it’s because your energy is not matched with your desire. You can get in alignment with any desire, but one of the easiest way to see this is to use relationships as an example. Let’s say you meet a new friend and you love her energy. She’s easygoing, fun, relaxed and laughs at just about anything. She never stresses about not having the next dollar and she makes work come off as effortless.
Part of you just can’t grasp why. But you can totally imagine yourself being friends with this person. The question is, how will this new friend vibrate? What type of person will she want to hang out with?
Is it those friends who are Negative Nancy’s or will she rather hang out with Positive Peggy? Of course, she is a vibrational match to Positive Peggy.
That’s why you usually see like-minded people hang out together. Very rarely will a group of positive people hang out with a negative person becuase the negative person isn’t a vibrational match to the laughter, joy, and the happiness positive people exudes. Negative people hang out with each other and comfort each other that everything is going to be alright.
Becuase the law of attraciton says that “like attracts like”, you must be a vibrational match to your desire before it manifests for you.
#2 You have limiting beliefs around your desires.
Another reason the law of attraction isn’t working for you is that you have self-limiting beliefs around it. For example, limiting beliefs are:
- “I don’t deserve to be living my dream life when everyone else is struggling.”
- “Who am I to so much money? I only need enough to get by.”
- “I’ve always been heavy. There’s no reason someone like me can have a thin, gorgeous body.”
Sounds like you?
Well, guess what? You can re-program your subconscious mind and replace limiting beliefs with empowering beliefs!
And that’s why the law of attraction isn’t working for you. In order for the law of attraction to work for you, your subconscious beliefs must match your desire. If on a subconscious level you believe you’re nobody to make so much money and you want that successful business, guess what? It’s not gonna happen.
You’re just gonna attract more wanting. Why? Because you’re in wanting mode. You’re a vibrational match to wanting, not having.
That’s like saying the midwest girl who wants a Hollywood glam life, but continues to hide out in Kansas until the producer seeks her out. Who do you think will get the leading actress role? The LA girl who shows up to the auditions or the Kansas girl who is waiting at home?
Unfortunately, limiting beliefs at the subconscious level are so invisible that they’re like cockaroaches. You don’t really see or notice them so it’s not your fault. But when you believe you don’t deserve something you want (whether it’s that gorgeous body, soulmate, promotion or successful business), it’s likely that you have a limiting belief around your desire.
#3 You’re not taking action towards your desire.
You can be doing EVERYTHANNGGG on the spiritual, mental, and emotional level, but if you’re not taking action on the physical plane, nothing will happen.
Zero. Nilch. Nada.
This means, if you’ve journaled, meditated and worked on your vision board and your desires still haven’t manifested, you gotta take physical action. What will the person who already has what you want be doing?
This doesn’t have to be difficult. Let’s say you want to make an additional $1000 this month, what will you have to do get that?
Although I received a check from the IRS about a tax refund this month unexpectedly, you must be taking action to co-create your reality with the universe. In my situation, if I never filed taxes, I’ll never have received that refund.
Getting into emotional and spiritual alignment will strengthen your focus, but in order for the law of attraction to work, you have to be physically co-creating with the universe.
#4 You’re trying too hard to make the law of attraction work for you.
Girls, here’s the other tricky thing. I know we’ve been trained to believe that we have to work hard to have the things we work. On some level, there is work involved, but whatever action you take, let it be inspired action. Remember, INSPIRED action. Not forced action.
But the law of attraction states that “like attracts like.” This means all you have to do is match the vibration of your desire and nothing more. Just becuase something hasn’t arrived yet doesn’t mean you should get desperate. Perhaps there are other signs that you’re missing. Often times when I don’t get one thing, it’s a blessing in disguise. Then something even better pops up for me.
Don’t try too hard to make the law of attraction work for you. It’s meant to be easy. Continue to raise your vibration, uplift yourself by uplifting others as well.
#5 You surround yourself with toxic people.
Another reason why the law of attraction doesn’t work for you is that you’re constantly surrounded by toxic people. Friends who laugh at your dreams, family members who bring you down, relationships that aren’t in alignment with what you want. Remember, if someone isn’t lifting you up, they’re bringing you down because nothing is EVER constant.
The only constant in change.
Trying to raise your vibration and manifest with the law of attraction but hanging out with toxic friends is like refilling water in a basket with holes. It’ll never fill up with pure water.
The law of attraction isn’t working for you because you’re manifesting with lots of toxic energy. And “like attracts like.” Meaning, toxic energy is attracted to more toxic energy. Happy energy is attracted to more happy energy. Calm is attracted to calm, etc.
Forgive all those toxic people. The Forgiveness Chant inside the Bliss Rituals Workbook can really help you forgive all these toxic people.
You might be wondering why you should forgive all these people who have wronged you.
But you’re doing it for your own highest good. Forgiving others is to give yourself a calm sense of mind again. Meditate on your forgiveness chant. These two practices will really help you focus on clearing the crap and focus on what you really want.
The law of attraction is always working. Just like the gravity and electricity is always working in the background even though we don’t see it. You know you believe in the law of gravity because you won’t jump off a cliff. We all know what’s gonna happen right?
Similarly, you wouldn’t play with electricity too because you don’t want to get electrified. You might not understand the intricacies of gravity and electricity, but you know it’s working for you all the time.
If you want a visual example of the law of attraction, go out to a coffee shop or some place with lots of people. Observe a few groups of friends. You’ll realize that people with a similar energy hang out together.
Alrighty friends, that’s it for the law of attraction. If the law of attraction works for you after this, please share your experience below!
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