Self-Care Routine: 5 Ways to Rethink What It Means to You
Hey you! Do you feel slightly burnt out and in need of recharging yourself? Mid-year has just passed. If you’re looking back and feel like you haven’t achieved some of your goals, the reason might not be because you haven’t worked hard enough. Maybe you just haven’t prioritized your self care or don’t have a self-care routine in place that works for you! Self-care isn’t selfish nor is it just a buzzword. It’s a trend that’s here to stay. When the whole world is busy, self-care is the perfect balance to your daily routine to take some time for yourself. When you have too much masculine (go-go-go energy), you need some feminine energy to balance it all out. Or like the classic goes, when you have too much yang, you need some yin. Everything in life is about balance.
Self-care isn’t this matter-of-fact method where you just take an hour each month to get another task done and out of the way. Self-care is about you or “me time.” It’s about connecting with yourself. And if you’re spiritual like me, with your spiritual high self.
I personally love my self care time and I take about two hours each day to reconnect with myself. If you’ve been reading this blog, I love re-connecting with myself via:
- Drinking hot tea (Yes, even in the summer. I’m just a grandma like that)
- Making my lemon coconut water
- Making adaptogenic elixirs
- Lighting some essential oils
- Meditating to some light and soft songs or the Simple Habits app
- Pampering my skin every night with a 7-step skincare routine
- Giving myself a face mask and collagen lift
I know that seems like a lot, but when you spread these activities in between your work, it’s actually not a lot of work.
Everyone has their own self-care routine that works for them. And while there’s no right or wrong answer here, get this. Self-care goes far beyond the basics of brushing your teeth, taking a bubble bath or even giving yourself a massage. While all those things are part of self-care, I truly believe that caring about yourself begins with YOU.
The you from within.
Rethink what having a self-care routine means to you. Over the last year of practicing self-care and ditching overwhelmed and an unfilled hustle mentality, I’ve had a few moments of epiphanies that I’d like to share. So here are five ways to rethink what having a self-care routine means.
#1 Infuse anything roses.
Roses are not only beautiful and a go-to staple for Valentine’s Day. The benefits of roses go beyond its physical appearances. I started getting into essential oils a few months ago. While scents like lavender, frankincense, tea tree oil, and peppermint are very popular, I realized that roses has a much higher frequency than any of those.
I personally love lavender and have fallen in love with it. It’s my favorite scent. But knowing that the rose scent vibrates at the highest frequency, I remember to light up my room with some rose scents. As I’m writing this right now, I just light up my room in roses after a heart-heavy day.
Aromatherapy is one way of taking care of yourself as it affects your smelling buds. Aromatherapy also helps with relaxation and, for me, creativity as well.
Since roses help hydrate, have antibacterial, anti-inflammatory, and antioxidant properties, the benefits are endless. It’s really good for the skin and hair. I personally use a rose mask by Fresh and a rose hips shampoo by Herbal Essences.
When it comes to your self-care routine, engage all your senses, including scents. Before I started playing around with essential oils, I certainly didn’t do anything to engage my smelling sense. Haha.
#2 Eliminating your to-do list.
Everyone you know is busy. It’s like busy is a badge of honor. These days I try to avoid people who are overly busy because they have too much masculine energy for me. That’s when it popped into my head.
Having to check off a to-do list doesn’t make your work more interesting or more fun, it just gives you more things to check off. Since my college days, I’ve always kept a to-do list and sometimes I’ll even color code it. I use to even brag about having a to-do list so I can see how many things I checked off.
These days, I much rather have a shorter to-do list and build better habits so that I can step into my purpose and best self every morning. I do try to publish on at least one of my social media channels everyday. Sometimes, it’s writing for this blog. Other times it’s writing a deeper Instagram post.
But I don’t have this rigid system and a whole laundry list of items to check off. Most of my IG stories are unplanned unless there is going to be something special happening.
When it comes to your self-care routine, a to-do list feels like a chore. But if you can cultivate a habit, you’re good to go for life because your habit is you and you are your habits. Let’s say you want to cultivate this habit of writing daily. Then you set an intention to sit down and write everyday at the same time in the beginning until you can do it automatically. Publishing and creating are two things that are really important to me so I make it a habit.
When it comes to a self-care routine, think long-term. A to-do list may solve all your issues today, but what about tomorrow? You’re going to have more work tomorrow. On the other hand, building habits will make your work effortless and easy. When your work feels light and effortless, you’re already taking care of yourself without having to go for that extra massage, right?
#3 Dealing with urgent tasks.
Whether you have heard of the Einsenhower matrix or not, you probably were told to deal with urgent tasks first. It’s best practice to. But when you’re always putting out fires and running from one urgent task to another, you might want to rethink the type of work you’re doing.
Urgent means emergency, it does mean meaningful. Sit down and really assess how urgent these tasks are. Can they be delegated to an assistant? How did they end up on your lap? How can you prevent similar tasks like that coming your way in the future?
Urgent tasks usually makes you feel burnt out because you didn’t expect them coming. As a result, you’re not prepared for them and they might require more mental prowess to get done.
If you truly want to take care of yourself, prevent or delegant urgent tasks from coming your way. You can have the perfect self-care routine, but if you’re always putting out fires, self-care won’t work too well for you either.
#4 Getting in alignment with yourself.
Getting in alignment with yourself is probably my favorite one. Self-care goes beyond “doing” more. After all, when we are prioritizing self-care, our goal isn’t to “do more.” It’s to love ourselves more. Now self-care can mean different things to everyone. But I’ll love self-care to be as effortless and easy for me as possible.
When you’re already in alignment with your best self, you know who you are and what you want. For example, when I tell myself “I’m ready for growth”, I’m affirming who I am. Every morning, I step into this version of myself who is ready for growth. Then I take the actions to grow, whether that’s to create stellar content, blast a series of IG stories, or come up with new ideas.
When I’m in alignment with myself, it’s much easier to get into a creative flow where time flies and work feels like bliss.
Self-care is work. Work is self-care. You don’t need a separate self-care routine that feels like extra work.
#5 Setting healthy boundaries.
Finally, you can do all of the above, but if you don’t set healthy boundaries, you’re allowing everyone to step over you. I’m recently reading a book called “The Book of Joy” by the Dalai Lama. I love how he said our brain has four circuits. Two of which are used to clear/forgive the negative energy and the other one is to welcome the positive energy.
Yeah, I was surprised that those are two separate circuits too.
To me, getting into alignment is welcoming a certain energy. Setting healthy boundaries is one way to prevent people who don’t support you or simply aren’t on your journey.
Self-care has taken a driver’s seat in my life over the past few months. I hope you’ll consider what self-care means to you as well. How would you like to design your day? Your week? Your life?
I don’t claim to be an expert in self-care, but I’m always learning and especially trying different things that work for me. These are some things that has been working for me.